See Adrian Grenier's search for his real father

What a remarkable young man Adrian is. I was so moved by his documentary, I found myself watching it twice! My mother remarried when I was 2 1/2 years old, so I was raised by the only father I ever knew. However, my biological dad was killed in WWII before I was born. There was always this feeling of a void in my life, even though I had a dad. Unfortunaltely, my dad was distant and unemotional and very uninvolved on a daily basis. I find this was typical of the WWII dad. I would find myself wondering what life would have been like if I had been raised by my REAL dad. My heart goes out to those who had no father figure at all. However, how lucky Adrian was to have a mom who undoubtedly showed him a great deal of love. He seems like a really sensitive, loving guy. And that is not a bad thing!

I was very moved by this piece and especially by the way Adrian conducted himself throughout a most difficult and heart-wrenching process. He displays such a pure heart and soul. Hopefully each parent truly recognizes what a gift this young man is to the world. This is certainly a display of the reailty that most situations are not "black and white" and reminds us of how important it is to be open-minded in the quest for truth's.
I am sure there are so many out there who felt a personal connection to his need to define/know his father. My father, a successful attorney in Kansas, left my mother and older sister for another woman after nearly 12 years of marriage. I wasn't born yet. I barely knew him, saw him one time that I can remember. He died of a massive heart attack when I was 7, and he was 41. So, there was never a chance to get to know him.
My mother was a fabulous parent, a survivor, who gave me so much of herself and modeled strength, intelligence, humor, vitality, an appreciation for the little things. I was fortunate, really. Yet, there will always be a lingering hurt, regret, sadness, that I never knew my father.
Adrian is a talented, dimensional young man and I believe his fame will not distort his grounding-his understanding of the things that truly matter in life-

To Adrian,
I just viewed your documentary this evening and I applaud the way you used your own life experience to open the eyes of others. Life is never the way it is seen through the looking glass. You showed that there is always two sides to that glass. I grew up with my father there; but only physically. Even to this day him and I can barely connect on a personal level because emotionally he was as dry as the Sahara. I'm twenty eight years old and he has only told me he loves me twice. It is sometimes hard to think about; but all in all I have never felt anger or regret that this is how it is. I respected that you had similar feelings with your situation. I know that I, like yourself, can take the small pieces of what he gave and still build on life. Your movie hit closer to home because I actually live approximately one hour away from Lancaster, near Springfield, and most of my friends haven't had there fathers either. For what it is worth, I would like to see maybe some sort of foundation to help people searching for those missing pieces. Maybe if more people cared to make the effort for that search there would be less conflict and better humanity.

Sincerely,
Ryan Allen

"The title of the documentary is Shot in the Dark. It features a pre-Vincent Chase Grenier (it was shot in 1999) and his search for John Dunbar, the biological father that he barely new."

Ok, sorry, being a spelling/grammar nazi here...knew, not new.

If you like Adrian Grenier, check out his latest indie flick, A Perfect Fit. He plays a real crazy guy, and he's crazy good!

www.aperfectfitmovie.com