If you're single, be wary of subjecting yourself to Patti Stanger's scrutiny on Bravo's 'Millionaire Matchmaker.' You might find that your comfortable, beloved high-tops have been traded in for sexy, high-heeled pumps. But you might also find yourself dating a millionaire.

Stanger called TV Squad to discuss the fourth season of the show, premiering Tue., Oct. 19 at 9PM ET, which is set in New York City. Talking to Stanger is a lot of fun, though she loves to gab, so what follows is a condensed version of our conversation. (We had to leave a few things out, like Stanger's crush on Jimmy Kimmel. And she could go on for hours about her favorite show, TLC's 'Sister Wives.')

But read on for her preview of the new season, which finds her playing matchmaker for Chris and Albie Manzo (the sons of Caroline Manzo from 'The Real Housewives of New Jersey') and the celebrities she'd love to work with in the future.

Plus, the newly-single Stanger encourages TV Squad readers to ask her out. (Let us know if any of you get a yes!)

How are you doing after your recent breakup with your fiance, Andy Friedman? Are you ready to date yet?
I had a great first date about a week and a half ago. I had an awesome time ... What I realized was, I know more now than when I was in my twenties and thirties about what I'm looking for. I'm looking for a certain type of guy, and I'm not going to settle.

Ex-boyfriends have been calling me, but I still want to be fixed up, so tell your readers, "Call me. I'll go out on a date." I'm not a celebrity snob. I don't have to date celebrities. I just want a nice guy.

You ask your clients what their non-negotiables are, so what are yours?
No one's ever asked me that question. I like that question! OK, first thing is, I would like him to make equal or more money. Now, it's not that I'm not generous. I spend too much money on my man, and I get in a lot of trouble for that. I have dated down financially, and it bit me in the butt. They guy wants to take over my bank account or doesn't want to work.

Two, I'm a TV star. I live in the world of entertainment. If you hate the entertainment business, you're not for me.

Three, family first. I'll tell Bravo I can't shoot today if my kid is sick. You've gotta be a family guy first.

Four, I want a sexy, rugged kind of guy. I want a wood chopper. I don't want to go to therapy. When I come home, I want to watch TV, eat a chicken and get into my bath. I don't want to talk three hours about what happened during my day. I can't do that. I talk all day long.

Number five, which is the most important thing, you must be a take-charge guy. I'm the girl. I'll pay for things as well. I'll upgrade us to first class. You'll get gifts, but you're the man, you're the leader. I want to be the follower. I don't want to be the man in the relationship.

And maybe there's a sixth non-negotiable: I want a man who goes on camera with me for lunch or dinner, maybe once a season. He doesn't have to be like Bethenny's Jason [Hoppy, Frankel's husband on 'Bethenny Getting Married?'], but it would be nice. Andy wouldn't do that for me, yet he did Tori [Spelling] and Dean [McDermott's] show, and that was one of the reasons I broke up with him. I need my guy to be proud of me, and I want to be proud of my man.

If Andy Cohen wasn't gay, I think he'd be perfect for you. He's smart, handsome, dresses well and loves TV.
[Laughs] Will you do me a favor and put that in the article? Can I be honest with you? I would marry Jeff Lewis if he was straight. I'm so in love with Jeff, and I'm so sexually attracted to him. I love his OCD. I'd embrace it. I'd be cleaner for him.




Season 4 is set in New York. Are there any differences between L.A. millionaires and the ones in New York?
Yeah, L.A. millionaires are snotty on the looks, and New York millionaires are snotty on the intelligence.

In the season premiere, we meet Bryce, a young millionairess who is a piece of work. She's so uptight and unfriendly. How frustrating is it for you to work with someone like that?
I find that people like her stay single forever.

Chris Manzo, the son of Caroline Manzo from 'The Real Housewives of New Jersey,' is going to be on the second episode of this season. Is he actually a millionaire?
He is called the "M.I.T. Millionaire in training."

That's great. Is his brother Albie on the show, too?
They're both on. They're different in that Chris is a workaholic who has one day a week to date, and Albie only attracts the fame whores.

Was it fun to work with the Manzo family?
I absolutely had the best time. I couldn't wait to hang out with them and be in Jersey. I'm from Jersey. It was a blast.

Can you tell me more about the episode they're in?
It is a really interesting episode because you're going to see Dr. Lillian Glass, the foremost expert on body language do something with them. I don't want to give it away, but it's really exciting. You're going to see tips of the week this season. Andy Cohen [Bravo's programming chief], thank God, recognized that my book 'Becoming Your Matchmaker' is really the Bible for dating, and he was like, "I want you to have seminars with guys and girls each week and teach them what to do from the book." So you get your tip of the week each episode, which is what I really wanted to do on the show for the first three years, but Bravo was slow to come to Jesus.

Let's talk about celebrity matchmaking. It would be great if you could find Kathy Griffin a boyfriend. Would you be open to having Kathy on your show?
Ask Andy Cohen that question. They're really good friends. I've met Kathy a few times, and I would love to fix her up. I'm not sure she's not dating someone now. I don't have a personal relationship with her, but if Andy Cohen says OK, I'm on the case. We're going to be in Miami with the show next year, so I think what we need to do is get her in a bikini and go poolside. Kathy has a frickin' awesome body. I've seen her naked because we've done commercials together. She's got a bangin' 25-year-old body. Or how about Chelsea Handler? I want to set up Chelsea Handler, and I want to date her ex-boyfriend. He's hot.

Are you friends with stars from other Bravo shows? I imagine you meeting at parties and becoming BFFs.
I'm really good friends with Jeff and Jenni [from 'Flipping Out']. I'm good friends with Jill Zarin (from 'The Real Housewives of New York.'] I know the other New York girls, Kelly and Ramona, but I would say I hang more with Jeff and Jenni and Jill.

I'm a huge fan of Rachel Zoe, and I love Roger, her husband, and he's not gay. I want to get that on the record because everyone says, "He's gay!" He is not. Trust me. The guy is not. I spent a whole 24 hours shooting that [Bravo promo] with them, and he was watching the NCAA playoffs. Gay men do not watch the NCAA playoffs.

How about Danielle Staub from 'The Real Housewives of New Jersey?' Would you set her up?
She's already asked me.

Would you do it?
Well, you know, Caroline would probably have a hit out on me. I can't go against Caroline. I'm in the Manzo family now. I'm a meek little Jew. I don't hurt anyone. I said to Danielle, "I'm really sorry, but I'm friends with Caroline, so I can't." Caroline would be really mad at me.

I was going to suggest that you find Jenny McCarthy a new man now that she and Jim Carrey aren't together anymore, but I read she is dating someone. If it doesn't work out, she'd be great on your show.
I don't know if she'd do our show. Bravo doesn't pay anything.

She could do it out of friendship and love.
I actually did a chapter in her book out of friendship and love, so maybe. We wrote this threesome chapter [for McCarthy's book titled 'Love, Lust & Faking It: The Naked Truth About Sex, Lies and True Romance'] at the Beverly Hills Hotel. The Kennedys were having brunch at the same time, and I know some of them, and so I was like, "We have to keep our voices down. We're talking about threesomes!" She said to me, "Would you have a threesome?" And I said, "Not in this body!" That was a year ago, and I literally went out and lost 25 pounds with Sensa, and now the running joke between us is that I lost 25 pounds to get into threesome shape. The chapter I helped her write is on how to get a threesome so your husband doesn't stray. You've got to read it. It's a dialogue between us interview style. It's hysterical.

I have to ask you about some of the memorable people you've had on 'Millionaire Matchmaker.' One of the most fascinating was Shauna. She was the woman who appeared on the show twice and only wanted to date younger men. Would you have her on the show a third time?
I don't mind fixing her up, but that's a network question. The show is cast by the network, and I don't really get involved in that because my real members [Stanger runs a dating service called Millionaire's Club] are on the Forbes List, and they would never go on camera.

Are Bill Brandes & Heidi Cornell, the two millionaires, still together?
They had a torrid two-year affair. They broke my club rules on the first date when they slept together.



Why isn't Chelsea, the VP of matchmaking, on the show this season?
We no longer have her in the company. I can't discuss it under advice from my lawyer.

Much like Simon Cowell on 'American Idol,' you are blunt during the casting sessions at which you find bachelors and bachelorettes for your clients to meet. Do you ever feel bad about the things you say to people during these sessions?
Do I feel bad?

Have you ever felt like you've been too harsh and regretted something you've said?
Never, never. Has Simon ever regretted anything? No, I come from truth.

Why do you always tell women with beautiful, curly hair to straighten it?
Because millionaire men like silky, straight hair, and that's from a study.

Are you constantly approached by fans of the show seeking dating advice?
New York was the hardest place to go. It used to be Miami, but now it's New York. They recognize me, and they have no fear because they're New Yorkers. In L.A., I can go to Starbucks, and they could care less. But in New York my ego was pumped up. The truck drivers were screaming, "Matchmaker, hook me up!" It was awesome.

Before we wrap this up, I want to hit you up with three dating questions culled from my friends. First up, what do you do if you are dating someone who doesn't like your dog or your cat?
Next!

Agreed. Number two, how fast should you become Facebook friends with someone you are dating?
[Laughs] He has to Facebook you, or in the gay and lesbian community, whoever is the top is the person who Facebooks first.

Thirdly, is it bad to text or email someone to ask them out on a date?
The check-in text is OK. How's your day going? That's fine. I just had someone ask me out on a first date by text. Now, he's my brother-in-law's best friend, so I had to be nice and say, "Call me," and he called. A text is okay for checking in but not for asking someone out on a first date.